"It Takes, What it Takes!"

My husband and I have started attending Change Church founded by Pastors Dharius & Shameka Daniels. Last week Pastor Dharius’ message was titled “It Takes What It Takes.” Instantly that resonated with me on so many levels. When I looked back over my life, there are moments where I gave what I had to give, I did what I had to do… because it took what it took. And this season I’m in now is no different, it takes what it takes. 

Earlier this week my husband and I were discussing our finances. Particularly, our finances related to how much I’ve spent and plan to spend on this new “business venture” of branding myself. (For those unfamiliar, this platform I’ve created based on my life, my career, and my family). I think my husband had an amount in his head that’s the maximum he wanted us to spend. (Wives, spouses... do you feel me? Honestly, let me give you a little more background. My husband is amazing with money! I have learned so much from him about budgeting, saving, and managing my finances. Before meeting him, I was more of the live by faith and pray about it when it comes to my finances. I grew up well below the poverty line, so I know God is faithful. As a result, my faith about finances is ridiculous!). So, in my head I was thinking, I don’t really have a certain amount. I’m just trusting God through this process. 

Our conversation then morphed into the amount of time I’m spending at night, on the weekends, and when the “magic” strikes working... working and not spending time with our son. He wondered if I should wait until our son is older. Again, I thought about what my husband said. However, I just feel like I’m doing what I’m supposed to do. I love being a mother, but it’s not my only identity. I try not to make sacrifices that negatively influence my son, but I also want him to see me pursuing my dreams and do the same when he’s older.  

I remember reading a meme or some online post. I don’t remember the exact phrase, but it was something like don’t get upset when others don’t follow or get your vision because it wasn’t given to them. Those who are closest to us may worry about all the things that might go wrong because the purpose, the passion that drives us may honestly scare them. And that’s okay. If they are still supporting you when they can’t quite understand, take it as a win. I do! My husband is my biggest cheerleader. No one in my family is doing what I’m trying to do. Talk about dreaming big! I just have lots of opinions, some expertise, and just the right amount of grace to attract people to me. (Not being cocky, I’ve been told since I was young how easy it is to talk to me). People share so many things with me. And I’m truly humbled every time it happens. I’m just a small-town, country girl who looked around and realized she wanted more than what anyone around her had. I took the advice of those who saw things in me I never saw in myself, and the rest is history. So, I leave you with this call to action, it takes what it takes… time, money, relocation, late nights, early mornings… but it won’t take you away from who God made you to be or the purpose He placed in your heart. So go for it!

~ Dr. K